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Adapting Your Parenting to Fit Your Child.

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     As I reflect on the sections of each of these, I really enjoyed the quote by Elder Marion G Romney said, "Without self-reliance, one cannot exercise these innate desires to serve. How can we give if there is nothing there? Food for the hungry cannot come from empty shelves. Money to assist the needy cannot come from an empty purse. Support and understanding cannot come from the emotionally starved. Teaching cannot come from the unlearned. And most important of all, spiritual guidance cannot come from the spiritually weak."        As I think about this quote, it really brings into perspective how important it is to take care of ourselves. When we can allow ourselves to be available emotionally to be able to adequately parent our children. As we go through our daily activities with our children and face the never-ending challenges of raising our children, we can learn to be able to adapt our parenting style to fit our children.   ...

AVOIDING HARS DISCIPLINE

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 Four things parents must ALWAYS do: Never use physical punishment. Don't be verbally abusive. Controlling your anger. The right way to punish.                                                        Spanking does NOT improve behavior      Excessive aggression leads to children being more likely to be rejected by their classmates, getting in trouble at school, and developing early conduct problems. This is a recipe for disaster for your child academically. They become antisocial, delinquent, and underperform academically. Spanking your child will increase the likelihood of your child developing these problems.  DON'T BE VERBALLY ABUSIVE     Just like physical punishment, speaking to your child in an excessively angry or cruel way has side effects that over time will adversely affect his deve...

Praising your Children

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 PRAISING YOUR CHILDREN           There have been several great principles that I have learned during my class at Brigham Young University Idaho for the class I have been taking called "Parenting Skills". I will discuss in three blog posts the principles that mean the most to me. In this first post, I will discuss praising your children.  There are three types of praises: 1.     Descriptive Praise 2.     Appreciate Praise 3.     Evaluative Praise  Descriptive Praise Descriptive praise is what makes your child feel good inside. The praises are free from evaluation, focus on accomplishments, your observations, and reinforce behavior.  The website "reachformontessori.com" has a great post on What is Effective Praise .  This site gives great information on words to use for effective phrases using descriptive words. Here is a list of 30 ways to praise! Use one praise a day to help encourage your childre...